Validate Your Life

The Assignment:
Practice Rapport and Mismatching!!! — 2 Phone Convos — in phone call observe auditorally the quality of the conversation with matching voice tone nad language rapport and then see how easy (hopefully) it is to end the call when you mismatch rapport (speaking loud if voice is soft, soft if loud slow if fast, fast if slow etc) mabye may not even need to say ” gotta go !” –

March 30, 2009
10:14 AM

YES!! Totally did this with Citibank person. she had slow southern drawl that I matched, with ALL Visual predicates rock on1! and I matched those “does it show in teh screen?” “I’m trying to not be in the dark” “I see that I made a deposit on 3/3, but that it shows a new statement starting on 3/15″, So Matched the s low pace and the visual predicates, then when I had to go I sped up pace a lot and switched to auditory GREAT!! and It like LAUNCHED me into the next thing I wanted to do instead of having lingering d oubts about hte conversation. it felt like I was in control (well certianly in rapport with) the convo and the best thing si that you get to know differnt types of people by doing reapport and I felt like I thought like southerner with a drawl for a bit then and i LOVED the closure mismatching created when I ended the phone convo. SO awesome!!! RAD!!! SUCCESS!! That felt great because I “saw eye to eye” lol with the person using their preferred representational system (visual) and their preferred speed-tone (slower) and i created that rappport for understanding and then when ended teh conversation, I mismatched with auditory and fast (likely my preferred rep system!) wanted to check in to see if she was trying to match with mine like she might thoguht my prefererd was visual so she tried tomatch that but, bah, not likley people arent’ that cpmle.x HEY that was awesome!! Cool as!! great!! Felt awes.e one more of those ! Cool! One VERY cool thing I did at the beginning of the conversations was I cycled through all three VAK representational systems saying “I’m trying to see if..”…this sounds right but..I don’t feel like it went through” So I PRESENTED the V-A-and K represetnational predicates to almost kind of push her to start using her preferred one, subconsciously that could imply that we’re going to start using representational system predicates in this conversation “you better choose your preferred or else you’ll be confused” and she went with visual. But that VAK cycle at the beginning kind of ELICITTED or sparked her to start using her preferred, and then all we did was use visual so it was GREAT predicate matching!! So awesome!!

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“A state is our way of being in any moment It comes from our physiology.
thinking and emotions, and is greater than the sum of its parts. We
experience states from the inside, but they have external markers that can
be measured from the outside, like a particular frequency of brain waves,
pulse rate, etc. But none of these can tell you what it is like to feel angry
or to be in love. “
Oconnor.
SOOOO TRue. so awesome!!! OMG so helpful.

My baseline state changed in 00 (after meeting the devil worshipper bitch maya). Before I had different energy level, different representational system. My newer state became more chaotic. I held different values; predominant emotion of anger or so! I am blue energy (knowing what’s up with people emotionally, highly emotionally, easily overwhelmed a bit) so definitely good to stay connected with personal history, journals, etc!

GREAT general rule. Experience pleasant memories in associated experience to get the most out of them, and unpleasant memories in dissociated state to avoid bad/unpleasant feelings and to avoid getting overwhelmed. COOL. This is like a protector or integrater. If you’re in life and feel overwhelmed,just pop into dissociated state! If you’re doing something and you realize “hey, this experience rocks!” pop into an associated state to soak it up and get all the good emotions to generate a more uplifted state!

In “Maslow on Management”, Maslow talks about the necessity and importance of self-actualization, but realizes that frequently, “flakes and gurus” as he calls them, learn of a new trend and bank on that to earn capital. True, true, but we must also respect the passion of such “flakes and gurus”. After all, while they may try to swindle money, they do connect with honest, healthy visions that people have to have a pre-existing, intrinsic interest towards in the first place. So they can exploit, but they exploit, in a way, something good and worthwhile and if it weren’t for the money charge, it wouldn’t be exploitation, but identification with intrinsic values!

Take vocabulary for example, Maslow wrote, “if one increased his vocabulary, he would also dramatically increase his learning by 10 to 100 percent” (Maslow 119). That’s ginormous! He also pointed out that the increased vocabulary leads to an increased awareness of the world, and, in contrast, a lower vocabulary, sincerely increases paranoid behavior. Lowered vocabularies lower your awareness making you effectively somewhat “blind”! Now those socalled “New Age flakes and gurus” could surely bank a buck on this and have overly-expensive “vocabulary learning classes” . One could argue that such an exploitation inhibits a person’s growth and steals their money, but the end result is the positive heightened awareness. Conclusively, it feels like the New Age exploiters utilize a manipulative process, but with a correspondingly energizing end result.

In the conclusive denouement of the correspondence between Andrew Kay, Maslow, and the editor of the book, the reached a correlation on the nature of “gypping” ideas. Maslow described that he would, for period, feel enraged at people stealing his ideas for papers or other various constructs, but now just finds it humorous and funny. He writes, “copying or stealing is a little like stealing the egg, instead of the hen that lays the eggs. In a word, money must be used; the mind must be used; creativeness must be used and one must spend it and be prodigal with it rather than to hoard it and be stingy with it and think that it can be used up or spent in decreased in quantity…The very process of talking about ideas helps the creativeness, and thereby makes it more likely taht there will be hundreds of ideas where there were only dozens before” (Maslow 120). In other words, unless you tackle it on your own, with your own process, your own voice, and apply your own creativeness, the outcome will have limitations. However, if you do apply your own creativity, the result becomes infinite.

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Everyone Loves some Good Ol’ Factoids!!!

Toothbrushes
Originaly made in China by drilling holes in Ivory and inserting horse hair!
They can be made by hand with fine copper wire and looping that around pig’s bristles, forming a tuft.

Celcius to Farenheit Conversion Generalizations
Celcius TO Farenheit
-20-40C = -4-104 F (60 degrees of Celcius equals roughly 100 degrees of Farenheit)
-20—10 = (0-15) (-4-14)
-10-0 = (15-30)-(14-32)
0-10 =30-50 (32-50)
10-20=50-70 (50-68)
20-30=70-90 (68-86)
30-40=90-100 (86-104)

Really deeply fascinating NLP work from scrutinizing the representational system predicates in Jack London’s White Fang. If you examine the dialogue on the early chapters (and then the predicates throughout the rest of the novel) almost ALL of them are gustatory!! They “digested ideas”; someone was “plumb tuckered out”, even the visual dispalys were gustorary with a “cinnamon” color; someone hadn’t had a “bite” in weeks “your stomach’s sour” (that easily could’ve been phrased, you sound disagreable, your look uncomfortable, but no it was deliberately made gustoary). Why? Because White Fang is this visceral survival wild rampaging animal Wolf book! Using gustatory predicates gets the reader in the mode of this survival and chewing and after all a lot of the passages are White Fang chewing prey after all. Cool as! Towards the last third of the book it shifts to a bit more kinesthetic representational outlay of predicates as characters “tackle” ideas, but I found this fascinating and extremely logical that the primary predicates were these visceral gustatory and later kinesthetic ones about a blood-thirsty wild wolf preying and it enunciates the feral nature of the wolf, which is necessary to show how much of a change it is for it to partially adapt and partially fit in with society. Cool!! Following this pattern, you’d expect an autobiography of Bruce Springstein or something to use primarily auditory predicates and maybe some sophisticated story of an artist, maybe like Girl with a Pearl Earring to use primarily visual predicates. It’s AMAZING how predicates can set the tone of the content and when the predicates match up with the tone (survival, chewing, chomping, preying with gustatory predicates in White Fang) it makes for an amazingly integrated work! I don’t know if Jack London deliberately chose gustatory predicates or if that diction had unintentional origins, but it clearly matches perfectly with the chomping wild survival Nature content of the book!! Fascinatingly cool!

A GREAT Exercise I want to practice in the real world:

“Predicate games.
Pick a casual conversation where the content is not important and listen for
predicates.When you hear a predicate, match it in the next phrase you speak
in reply (pacing).
When you are able to do this with confidence, match the predicate and
follow it with another phrase or sentence that uses a predicate from another
system (pacing and leading). Does your companion follow your lead by using
predicates from that system in reply?”

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Paul New Man Notes
From 10/10/2008 E Weekly

“Newman won just once, for The Color of Money, and took home two honorary Academy Awards, one for his contribution to film and one for the hundreds of millions of dollars in charitable contributions generated by sales of popcorn and salad dressing to which he lent his name, his face, and witty understanding that he could do an immense amount of good by turning himself into a commodity for his own purposes, not just Hollywood’s” (p.24).

“It’s hard to decide whether there’s more there than meets the eye, or less,” shrugged one interviewer after sitting through an “endless supply of euphemisms, sophistries, and non sequitors” that Newman deployed to keep almost any questioner at arm’s length.” (p.27).

“In the process, he cemented his status not as an icon of American Beauty and masculinity on screen, but as an actor who was interested in the frailty, flaws, and humanity of every character he portrayed.” (p.27)

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I liked the days before all the massive spam bulk forwarding email freak fests…When an email was as rare as a letter from a friend or a postcard from a traveler…sigh.

In any case, I realized I’m very much like a kid. When I was a lot younger I never really dreamt of being a Superman or a super hero or a fireman or things that kids typically dream of an envision themselves as. So I realized in my young adulthood I’ve still acted as a dreamer but dreaming and pretending to be as epic as Paul Newman or as talented as Collin Farrel, Brad Pitt, or Tom Cruise or Gabriel Byrne or maybe as wise as Emerson or as clever as Einstein or as peaceful as the Dalai Lama. More recently have dreamt “play-pretending” of being as talented as the actors or comedians as witty as Jim Carrey or as fearless Robin Williams. But it’s still the same as dreaming of being a superhero at age 4.

Being a constant lifelong learner, I always have to have something to study and with which to connect my mind. As of late (the past few months and years), I’ve been studying Neurolinguistic Programming (useful for communications, for general conversations with people, to giving performances such as comedy on stage, NLP is essential), some Jungian Psychology (for creativity and peace in aiming to understand the complex areas of life), rudimentary math (for clarity), as well as audition and standup comedy books to keep me aligned and focused on career.

“All that time, under the gorgeousness was this major actor waiting to get out….He was getting on, and, an actor has a choice about how much of himself he’s going to reveal” (p.28).
This one made a LOT of sense. Because after all…some times actors play roles, characters VASTLY different from their core personality (take Michael Richards for example, a very philosophical personality in person, but plays a quite a contrary character). In many ways I feel I do that as well. It’s difficult to distinguish what parts of me are character versus just “me” at times. Even when trying to recreationally entertain I approach it with a seriousness, so it can even be difficult for me to make a distinguishing characteristic!

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I seriously thought the reporter was acting. how could she be so serious and controlling and almost hostilely reprimanding?? wtf?!!! lol. have people become so foully political that a good party is severely scolded? WHERE the hell do you have raging good parties where you can be LOUD (and everyone’s safe, all good stuff, etc.) did people forget how … Read Moreimportant actually having fun is? Is everyone like this? Where are the people who embrace the occasionally extremely lively party?!! IF there’s so much time for hush hush, there has to be time for loud, uproarious good solid awesome parties too! lol.

Sure, doing this every night would be too much simply because people couldn’t sleep. So a little discretion there, but really, it’s something that should be heralded in many respects.

While calling this kid a savior, may be a teeny bit far-fetched, he’s damn close to it! Due to conformity, fear, lack of identity, and subversion into politics, people have completely forgotten and neglected the meaning and the act of a good party. I thought the parents and the reporters were seriously “actors” because their reactions (shock and outrage) appeared so unnecessarily inflated. haha… Read More!! Thank god there still exists people like corey in the world who choose to listen to their inner voice and their own “iron string” instead slipping into delusions of what you’re supposed to do. This kid is a walking example of Emersonian self-reliance. Long live aussie corey!! haha! Self-reliance!

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