Validate Your Life

I’ve given Goal-Setting a lot of thought….and experience…..and saw it lead to a lot of failures…and occasional successes….but ultimately I’ve learned tha goal-setting is a fail agenda and a behavior that denigrates clarity and induces self-doubt all while unnecessarily increasing otherwise-avoidable stress.

Some of these may sound like semantics, but it really isn’t.  These different ways of looking at achievements changes the way your brain interprets goals and then achieve the outcome(s).

Here’s Why and How Goal-Setting is Fail:

• Inadequacy.  Goal-Setting is BY DEFINITION intrinsically and inextricably intertwined with INADEQUACY!   If you say “I must achieve xyz goal”, you’re setting yourself as someone who needs something, who currently isn’t complete.  Sure, improvement is an essential part of any success and progress, but this act of “goal-setting” is like sitting around and constructively moping about a state, thing, attribute, or quality and it pinions you in a state of inadequacy from the get go.  Bad times.  There’s many ways to improve without making oneself inadequate.   Just acknowledge your investment in achieving an outcome.
• Inefficacy.  Goal-setting, the very process and act of goal-setting just doesn’t bloody work!  Here’s a fantastic example: David Tennant.  Brilliant british actor possibly most known for his character the time lord Dr. Who in the television series by the same name.  Did Tennant land that role by goal-setting?  No, he became “absurdly single-minded” as he said in his own words about achieving that outcome he wanted, the outcome that he achieved.  And he OWNED his outcome.  The Dr. Who television series has  been on-going for over 26 years casting over a dozen people in the main role.  Tennant was by far the best Doctor.  People achieve things by occasionally focusing on them and working gradually towards them or being absurdly single-minded.  None of those achievement approaches involve goal-setting.
• Implies no plan.  This is related to programming.  If you want to achieve something, you’ll need a plan.  A procedure.  A sequence of steps, if-statements, and a sequence.  Goal-setting seems to make someone think they’re done when they decide on the outcome.  If you abandon goal-setting, you’ll put more time into devising the plan, sequence, intermediary progresses, and the programming to achieve an outcome.

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I originally had far too much on my plate trying to simultaneously Triple-Boot, sync calendars, email, and personal data across three operating systems.  The poorly written (but highly extensive) post to that insanity can be found here, as a previous post.  I never got the triple boot going in that post; this time, however, I DID!

July 18, 2010 — 1:43 PM  I’m really proud of this post.  I put a lot of time and effort and troubleshooting into it.  But most of all it’s rewarding and a project that was (on the rare occasion) an actual great use of my time, and congruent with my career, interests, and passions, and definitely aligned with computer science.  Plus, it’s essential to my interest and studies in operating systems.  So, jolly good!

First off, acknowledgements…Invaluable or at least moderately helpful sites for accomplishing the triple boost:

• MacBook TripleBoot Instructions
• Triple Boot Mac OS, XP, and Linux on a Mac – Wired How-To Wiki
• Ubuntu 10.04 LTS (Lucid Lynx)
• How to install Ubuntu Linux on a Mac
• How to Triple-Boot Your Mac with Windows and Linux, No Boot Camp Required

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See, there exist thousands of books and platitudes and ideas out there fore how to “Get what you want”, but you can barely find any material detailing how to “Exclude what you don’t want”. I’ve read hundreds of books that talk about having your personal esteem aligned means things you want get drawn to you, naturally. The Law of Attraction. Fine and dandy, but what do you do when things and people you do not want get drawn to you?! If you didn’t exclude what you don’t want but had what you want drawn to you, you’d be eating a dinner with the most gourmet, perfectly cooked, broiled, bright red lobster with dazzling butter on one side of the plate and on the other-side you’d have a couple of scoops of foul, maggot-ridden cow dung! Sounds ridiculous but you indirectly get that “interesting cuisine combination” of cow-dung and lobster when you attract what you want, but don’t exclude what you don’t want. You have reached a point of personal sincerity in your life where you deserve and have the capacity to get a life platter of lobster and fresh genuine vegetables (no more cow dung) on the side.

(Modified 2007 Post)

I know this stuff, I am like a doctor.

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Triple-Boot OS, Syncing Archived Mail.App, Emails, and Calendars from Different Platforms

I just wanted to share this bit of tech uploading/syncing bit of utter craziness partly for my own records, so I remember how I set this up, given that it’s so complex, and for anyone else attempted such a technological, mult-operating system juggling act.

First off, I’m working with Linux Mint, Winows 7 64-bit, and Mac OS 10.6.3.  I’m migrating away from the Mac OS (because it’s a waste of time, did very little constructive, and might be okay for self-therapy file/photo reviewing, but othe rthan that it’s pretty much rubbish imho).

I tinkered wtih refit, and an enormous amount How-To articles.  Lifehacker was tremendous help as were ones written by various other authors.  Eventually despite all of the “don’t install boot camp to triple boot!” messages I eventually did install boot camp via boot  camp assistant.  All of this was on imac8,1.

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One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in travel is that different people have different flexibilities.  Use this to your advantage. The ultimate example:  I flew Dubai airlines.  To say the least, it doesn’t allow as much checked-bagged weight as they allow in usa.  My extra kilos would’ve cost me $980.  I eliminated much of the weight but was still 1.5 kilos overweight and at $70/kilo I should’ve been charged 105 dollars.  I approached a different clerk and he off-handedly said “Oh it’s only 1.5 kilos over.  No problem.” And I was allowed on board.  I KNOW the other clerks would’ve charged me the $!05 fee.

Another perfect example was I was in a French Gare (Train station) and needed my water bottle filled.  I asked this woman working in a cafe if she could help me with that endeavor.  She said (in french) “Yes, I’ll fill it, but my two other colleagues will not.”

This has been a HUGE lesson.  Being a do-it-yourself guy, I hate dealing with customer service in general.  But when I have to (which unfortunately, for traveling, is a lot — from flight attendants, to barristas, to ticket vendors) I’ll always remember and engineer ways to utilize the fact that some people are nicer, more leniant, and more flexible.

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I got a bunch of questions about “water-striders”, the life-span of turtles, and the function of tails.  Frankly, I loved responding, liked my response, and love sharing this biological awesomeness.

Water striders are some of the coolest organisms imho.

This is such a cool biological adaption.  They utilize COHESION TENSION.  this is so frickin cool I love this stuff.

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CRAZY Journal

September30

I sprinted around a ton and bought icecream pops and spent some of day moving out belongings and had walkthrough.

October 1

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(this needs serious work organizing but the Electric Agenda: Reclaiming Ownership of your Temporality   is DEFINITELY PRINCIPLE that I MUST ABIDE BY!!!!! YES!!!)

I recently saw the Fantastic, utterly incredible movie In Bruges.  It was incredible because of the Irish component, great acting, fantastic direction from McDonough, Ferrel was A+ and his exchange with Gleeson (all three Irish dudes, mind you) was beautiful and humorous rapport)….BUT but but! But the most prominently cool and awesome part of the the movie was it’s seriousnesss and incredible depth!  That movie was deep!  And it had a reoccurringly profound theme of the necessity of abiding to principles.  I won’t give away the shocking ending, because you don’t want to spoil anything, but the relationship with allegiance to principles was an extremely strong message.  If you’ve seen the movie you know the concept of “principles” definitely defines the shape of the path the characters have in the movie.  Actually in the movie, disastrous things occurred because people were obdurate with sticking with principles.  So the actual message of the movie was kind: “You have to look very closely at detail to apply a potentially good principle effectively.”  But the whole brew-haha about got me thinking about how everyone has these upper-level, high-level principles and beliefs.

So that’s what this Validate Your Life “Linguistic Code” ebook is about :  Defining Principles that install the changes you want to occur and the freedom you want to experience.

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No, This angry asian is not me. But his demeanor portrayed what I was feeling about self-help books.

I think I’m interested in being mindful about reading, what I’d want to read, reading science reference books, and questioning the nature of reading before starting another book for a very long time.  Reading books is massively painful for me.  People say “you have to keep learning”.  I agree, but also greatly disagree.  You must keep learning and APPLY that learing.  I just spent over a hundred hours of my life reading 3 different NLP books and they all basically communicated the same information.  Most people in the world aren’t intelligent enough to realize this.  When you have read one book by an author, you most likely have read every book.  All authors will simply recycle back their ideas.  Reading too many books is toxic simply because it’s shoving in your brain the same data over and over and presupposing that you haven’t learned it yet, when you really have!!! So I’m an enormous fan of ceasing reading books and instead applying what you know.  Rereading stuff youv’e already learned is dangerous because it moves you further away from applying it.  It’s time to embrace the “quick-reference” charts, abandon most all books (Except reference books), and work with what we have.  I know I grasp 100% of NLP, so WHAT if there’s one other smidgen 1% of NLP that I am not aware of?!! Moving forward is applying applying.  IF I have to read another self-help book I will vomit.  I loathe self-help books because they use phrases like this:

Do not give self-development affirmations an exact deadline, for example, In

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This article is primarily about the outcome frame: applying it, it’s inherent awesomeness, and connecting up with what you want, need and deserve in life through utilizing the outcome frame.

Picture your life — I’m serious.  Actually do this.  Visualize.  You’ve discarded all your crappy cult of hollywood movies by now, right?  So you have to start to visualize.  Do this. — after everything’s done.

Picture your life after:

• The website is up and completed
• All your sales, all your products are not just available, but there’s a high turnover rate of sales
• Your services are not just available, but business is booming and you have clients.
• Your books are not just finished, but published and selling.
• All those nuisance annoying errands like get the “car’s brakes fixed” and “update xyz” are complete.
• All the loose ends to all projects are complete and filed and finito and done.
• Everything your reading, watching, or listening to from podcast to magazine, to web article to book, to research, to novels to important non-fiction reads you’ve already read high-lighted, taken notes on and fully processed and archived.
• All of your notes are applied triple-synced, archived, and used in your profession.
• You have a consistent health routine and all your health goals are achieved.
• In short, all of your “todos” all of your projects are DONE.  Finito.  Complete.  Total. Comprehensive.  Completion and Victory.
• RAD!!

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w/Ronnie Noize

“What if you asked to be born?”

This is a fascinating question. It sparks and generates allusions to fate, destiny, and having a life mission and purpose. With questions like “Am I just feeling out life?” Did I signup for life to “Investigate life?” It makes you cognizant with your relationship to life! You start to think, “Did I ask to be born because I wanted to party and life’s a party?” or What about a mission or purpose, “Did I ask to be born to complete or accomplish something, like a life mission?” In many ways, this question is a seriously effective motivational epiphany!.

Here’s an interesting, albeit subtle, shift in the question:

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Most of these were galvanized from changingminds.org, a fantastic site (listed in “choice linkage”).

Yes set close is actually asking a series of 2-3 “definite yes” answers. “You’re alive right?” Right. Now, you’ve slept in the past 48 hours right? Right. You remember what the face of your Parents look like right? Right . You want to sign this contract now right? Right. Yes set close is generating a “rut” of yes responses so you can just pop in the question you desire yes from into that rut and there’s a great likelihood of a yes response to the desirable question.