Distinguishing Smart from Stupid People
I’ve given this a tremendous amount of thought. No, more. I’ve written chapters in books to this topic. No…More. I’ve devoted many years of my life to interacting with people and trying to treat all people as equal of equal intelligence. My mantra, rubric, guideline, personal manifesto, what have you, was something along the lines [...]
I am not you, and you are not me — Transcending the Limitation of “Universal One”
I am not you, and you are not me. That is the way things are. I like that. As you ponder that, let me explain to you why I find tremendous value in that distinction.
Distinctions create boundaries. Without distinctions, everything would be porous and absorbing this information or that information would generate confusion. But that [...]
Comprehensive Success — The Three Categories of People Medicine!
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People Categories
Categorize People in I’ve noticed those three distinctions VERY clearly in friends but instead of just categorizing appropriately the “friend” as a
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The Power of “I’m not Interested”
“I’m not interested”. “I love your energy and you’re doing a great job selling, but I’m not interested, mate.” “I can tell you REALLY want me to, but not interested. Thanks though! Happy travels!” “No, zero interested”. There’s magic in those phrases. There’s abundant, liberating, FREEDOM in those phrases. What [...]
Want to Mate, Men and Women? Be Confident for a Change!
I stumbled across a flirting, date “tip”. This was phrased as a tip and it was about self-touch. It detailed that if a woman is interested in a man, she will touch her chest, leg.
I know (because I’ve dated women and we’ve discussed how they don’t subscribe to that) that some women do [...]
Wanna Observe like Sherlock? Holmes’ Elementary Meta-Strategy!
Holmes’ Meta Strategy!This is the transcription and reflection on Robert Dilts’ Strategies of Genius.
Perception of Clusters of Details —> Behavioral Observations + Environmental Observations —> Inferences —> Combinations of inferences —> Conclusions
Cultural Assumptions & Facts are matched up with the observations to draw inferences, then the inferences are “compiled” to generate conclusions.
Why is Holmes Strategy [...]
4 Methods of Responding to Questions.
“There are these four ways of answering questions. Which four? There are questions that should be answered categorically [straightforwardly yes, no, this, that]. There are questions that should be answered with an analytical (qualified) answer [defining or redefining the terms]. There are questions that should be answered with a counter-question. There are questions that should [...]
Is Everything for Romance? Even with Successful Careers
just woke up, just water, wore black (Great), no food, no coffee before, energizing awesome convo. good. I saw a darren brown and david tennant clip (for darren’s tv show) and I relized that they went out into public to have a woman draw a picture and david was supposed to have predicted what she’d [...]
Wanna Read a Person Like a Book? Two Words: State Callibration
State Calibration
Body language can never lie; words and statements, however, can. Learning to calibrate increases your ability to know what a person is feeling. This becomes extremely potent when trying to eliminate confusion in communication and also to avoid getting deluded with words.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming, State Calibration is just “indicators” of a person’s [...]
NLP Calibration!
Body language can never lie; words and statements, however, can. Learning to calibrate increases your ability to know what a person is feeling. This becomes extremely potent when trying to eliminate confusion in communication and also to avoid getting deluded with words.
State Calibration is just “indicators” of a person’s state. When the [...]
All Hail the Aussie Party God!
I seriously thought the reporter was acting. how could she be so serious and controlling and almost hostilely reprimanding?? wtf?!!! lol. have people become so foully political that a good party is severely scolded? WHERE the hell do you have raging good parties where you can be LOUD (and everyone’s safe, all good stuff, etc.) [...]
Declining Invitations Gracefully
Staying On Top of the Game: Declining Invitations Gracefully
Treat every invitation as a mere compliment and that way declining the invitation is a lot easier to do!! When someone invites you to a group, a party, an event, or to be a member that’s a MASSIVE compliment!! They’re saying “hey, we like you, we [...]
No Advice Please!
In my years I’ve given and received a lot of advice. Sometimes I’ve lucidly expressed and shared wisdom or my own or received brilliant tokens of wise suggestions from others. However, not until recently did I start to scrutinize the Value (or lack-thereof) of the advice I received from others. Upon this scrutiny, [...]
Society Vs. Culture
In his famous book, “Future Shock”, Alvin Toffler wrote, “Society is a wave. The wave move onwards, but the water of which it is composed does not”. In other words society is warped; something about it isn’t natural, it isn’t right. Waves cross thousands of miles of open ocean fetch expanse, carrying [...]
