I am not you, and you are not me — Transcending the Limitation of “Universal One”
I am not you, and you are not me. That is the way things are. I like that. As you ponder that, let me explain to you why I find tremendous value in that distinction.
Distinctions create boundaries. Without distinctions, everything would be porous and absorbing this information or that information would generate confusion. But that [...]
Wanna Observe like Sherlock? Holmes’ Elementary Meta-Strategy!
Holmes’ Meta Strategy!This is the transcription and reflection on Robert Dilts’ Strategies of Genius.
Perception of Clusters of Details —> Behavioral Observations + Environmental Observations —> Inferences —> Combinations of inferences —> Conclusions
Cultural Assumptions & Facts are matched up with the observations to draw inferences, then the inferences are “compiled” to generate conclusions.
Why is Holmes Strategy [...]
4 Methods of Responding to Questions.
“There are these four ways of answering questions. Which four? There are questions that should be answered categorically [straightforwardly yes, no, this, that]. There are questions that should be answered with an analytical (qualified) answer [defining or redefining the terms]. There are questions that should be answered with a counter-question. There are questions that should [...]
Wanna Read a Person Like a Book? Two Words: State Callibration
State Calibration
Body language can never lie; words and statements, however, can. Learning to calibrate increases your ability to know what a person is feeling. This becomes extremely potent when trying to eliminate confusion in communication and also to avoid getting deluded with words.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming, State Calibration is just “indicators” of a person’s [...]
How to Avoid Bringing Too Much When Traveling!
A huge fan of the “rolling clothes” WITH RUBBERBAND (Huge tip), I kept all my clothes like that even while at home!! I actually just stopped recently keeping all my clothes and rubberbanded AT HOME, but will likely do that on a trip.
My biggest problem is the “what if the opportunity arises for xyz?” [...]
The Success of Deletion
The stimulating and clarifying effects of deletion generate an inimitable empowerment in our pursuit of certainty. Susan Collins writes, “letting go of what we have can be a challenging process bringing up old fears and insecurities. Letting go of friends and partners, familiar jobs and homes will create the space for new people [...]
